Friday, November 21, 2008

Ernie had to give SHE some mail that came to our house, so he decided to stop in to the Dr's office yesterday when SHE had her appointment. SHE was there with EW. SHE was excited to see Ernie and asked Ernie to come in to see the Dr too. EW kept asking the DR when they were going to test for Downs symdrome and the DR said SHE is 20, we test for that later in pregnancies and there is no reason for us to think that the baby would have Downs. Ew told the Dr that if the baby has Downs, that the father of the baby would want the baby aborted....( I knew it..I knew it) the Dr said they don't do those things in his office and that it would not be the father's choice but the mother's...andSHE was not following the conversation at all, according to Ernie but when the Dr was trying to explain the how they do the test with a needle in the belly, SHE said no and when EW said you will have it done, SHE agreed...Ernie tried to tell SHE that it is her choice but SHE said whatever BF wants SHE will do.... They just have way too much control over her!!!

I called SHE later in the afternoon and SHE was in tears because her caseworker wants to meet with her on Tuesday and WEdnesday of next week and that ruins her holiday plans for spending iwth with BF and his family. I tried to tell her that when SHE agreed to live in that apartment SHE said SHe would follow the rules and that meant meeting with the social worker when the social worker said and that they need to meet 3 times a week. The worker was willing to drop it to 2 times next week....and that no matter what it would have cut into her plans. So now SHe is upset with me again...what else is new???

2 comments:

Kelly said...

Hey Becky, I am catching up on a few journals this morning. This is a hard entry to read. That EW sounds really harsh. How can SHE make any decisions for herself if EW is in her face like that. I hope the Dr can help explain things to her so she will understand. XOXO Kelly

Donna RDH in TEXAS said...

I thought of you the other day when I saw 20/20 and they were talking about adoptive parents and the agency not telling the parents there areproblems with the child..these children were from Romania russia but there was a camp in montana that some of them went to to learn attachments etc...
When the moms were talking I thought I wonder if becky is wathcing this. :-)