Friday, November 7, 2008

AAA and country roads...and MeeMaw, Granny, Nanny, Grandma???

Yesterday, I had a bunch of errands and DRs appts to run someone to. On the way to puick that person up, the battery light came on but I ignored it since lights have been popping on and off all the time due to a loose dashboard wire.... at 4:23, the dials on the dash started to go kerfluey...and I decided to pull over...I called AAA and told them what was going on. The woman at AAA said, it sounds like you need a battery charge, we can send someone out for that and if that doesn not work we will then send someone out to tow you. Um....Lady, while this is a country road, it is quite busy right now and it is getting dark and I don't want my hazard lights to give out on me and have me sitting here in the dark and not have anyone see me. She says it will be ok, it will be be an hour at least for the battery charge and if that doesn't work within another hour we will get a tow truck to you. Lady, you do not understand, it is getting dark, my hazard lights are dimming and I don't want to just be sitting here in the dark where I can't be easily seen, in other words I don't want to get hit!!! Then she asks me where I am, I telll her that I just got off Route XX and I am on Route YYa and am 1/2 mile frome the Route XX junction heading towards town YOuknowwhere. Then she asks for a cross street, Honey, I am on a country road, there are no cross streets. She asks if I can see a mile marker. No, but I am 1/2 mile from Route XX junction and I know that because I am right across from the sign that says so. She then asks for a cross street and I again tell her that the closest cross street in in Town Youknowwhere and if I could walk there I would have walked there for help! I told her to please tell whoever she calls that I am heading toward Town Youknowwhere and I am on Route YYa, just got off Route XX and am half a mile from the Route XX junction and they will know where I am. And then I hear the beep your battery on your phone is going dead. I tell her my phone battery is going dead and to please get off the phone and find someone to help me... So, finally a tow company calls. He insists that he is NOT going to jump me because he is supposed to get off work at 5:30 and if the battery dies, then I will have to wait for somone else to come get me and he would rather tow me...THANK YOU!!!! so, he comes to tow me....takes me to a place.... I had calld Ern and he came to get us....and I finally got home safe and sound at 7pm......

So, the person I was running around all day was SHE ( for new readers SHE is my oldest daughter who is 20, lives on her own in a slightly supervised apartment, she is bipolar and has a lowish IQ, she has been my problem child and still is)...she is now 14 weeks and 5 days pregnant. She has, obviously, decided to keep this baby. I am still adjusting to the fact that she is pregnant so quickly after she had the abortion in June. She did get pregnant on purpose. She is again off her meds and is not doing great but managing to semi hold it together. She has started doing odd things: she talks to her chicken as she cooks it and eats it, has conversations with it. It is only with chicken. she cannot understand why her therapist and I are concerned over this. She "sees" people talking to things that other people don't see. As long as she is not hurting herself or others or getting paranoid, she is ok. If she seems to be really really loosing it, we will see about finding another DR who will either prescribe meds ( her Psych DR will not give her any) and if none of the Drs in the practice won't...then that means she will have to find a new therapist...and that isn't good because that means too much change, at least as I see it.
So, I am being supportive to my daughter and her health and mental well being but I cannot bring myself to be excited about this coming baby...and I keep mentioning adoption to her...she says she is not interested in throwing away her baby like her birth parents did...I just cannot see her taking care of the baby. and please...I really do not want to take it.,....I am tired ...so tired!!!

5 comments:

Woman on a Mission said...

Wow. Sounds like a challenging day. I'll keep you and your daughter in my prayers. Stay strong. You will get through this and so will your daughter. You have my support.

Kelly said...

That is really scary that you were about to be left for the buzzards out there on that country road! What good is AAA if they can't get the very job they are for DONE! ERGG! I am glad you made it home safely, whew. I don't know what to say about SHE. I know you are in turmoil over it all. She can't possibly take care of that baby herself. It is not your responsibility to raise a grandchild either, as the trend seems to be these days. She has to know that putting that baby up for adoption will give the child a chance to have a better life. I hope you can get her to make the right decision for everyone. I know you have a full plate as it is and taking care of a baby now would just send you over the edge. BIG HUGS, Kelly

mamaof4qts said...

Sounds like an adventurous day. I hope things go ok with your daughter. I'll keep her in my prayers
Jami

BlueRidge Boomer said...

Finally....someone else who understands driving on a country road in the late afternoon!! Stay faithful, stay strong...we'll make it thru!!

Donna RDH in TEXAS said...

I did not know SHE was pregnant.. That poor child inside her doesn't have a chance with SHE raising it..
I'm so sorry your having to go through this...I know it stresses you out