Tuesday, October 7, 2008

rumor has it

Usually, I do not listen to rumors but ...with aol closing our journals..I am starting to listen to the rumblings that AOL will be closing the doors completely with the beginning of the new year...so, I am changing my email over to a gmail account. It will be the same except it won't be at @aol.com ...........

I was upset with the closing of the journals and I had thought of bringing my journal over here but I decided not to. Sometimes change is a good thing. Without change we stagnate and don't grow. Change can be a good thing!!! I am embracing this change as a wonderful thing

Sunday, October 5, 2008

Life chain and situational morals

Each year, on the first Sunday in October is the Life Chain when many Pro-Life supports go and stand along busy road sides holding signs against abortion. I have gone almost every year since my marriage 17 years ago. One year I didn't go because we had 2 very active foster sons and it was not safe to take them with us.

This year, I did not gone. I could not go.

I just did not have it in me to go.

I have honestly believed that abortion is wrong. I have believed that it is the killing of a life. While it is each person's decision, I have believed it is morally wrong. As an infertile woman, who adopted older children, it always ripped my heart open to think of all the babies that were not born because of abortion.

Back in June, someone very close to me became pregnant. She is someone who should never ever have become pregnant but she did. She was on heavy duty meds and the damage was done to the baby. As soon as her Dr heard she was pregnant, he took her off her meds. If she were to go to term, she would need to stay off her meds. She wanted to have that baby. Those of us who loved her watched her spiral out of control off her meds. We watched her go to a very dark place where the paranoia struck, where people in cars next to her on the highway were talking to her and telling her to jump out of the car going 65 MPH, the ceiling would open up at night and talk to her, she started becoming violent and the people she lived with were locking their bedroom doors at night, she was becoming suicidal. She was calling me at all hours of the night begging me to put an end to this. After about 3 weeks of this, I started agreeing that an abortion was what would save her life since the Drs would not give her anything to help her mental status. There was no way I could see her going to term like this. She went to Planned Parenthood, they counselled her, she had the abortion. My heart broke when she called me and said I forced her into it. I didn't even go with her to any of her appointments.

September came and she because pregnant again and told me that she has an abortion scheduled on Wednesday. This time her Dr has allowed her to stay on her meds. My heart is again broken.

The thing about abortion is that it just doesn't affect the mother, it touches the lives of all those who love her, if she chooses to tell them.

So, I have been sitting here this afternoon, wondering, are my morals situational? Would I make the same decision again and advise her to have the first abortion? I was talking with one of the Elders in my church about this and he was saying, "Stop Abortions" is really so simplistic until you really stop to think about it and the lives that are affected by it. While, I still think it is wrong, I still feel I have the responsibility to protect the mother who is pregnant...she is here right now and that baby is not...
For those of you who have followed me over here from AOL, I am sure you can figure out who she is ....and why I feel/felt the need to protect her

Saturday, October 4, 2008

want a laugh?

Look over to the right and click on Stitchy Mcyarn pants's link...and see my brother dressed in abeer can evening gown...and read the story behind it...briefly, my SIL did it for someone who will be wearing at a AIDS fundraiser in LA....

Friday, October 3, 2008


ok, it is not too clear...but this is my latest finish.. It was a mystery exchange that I did on one of my yahoo groups....http://groups.yahoo.com/group/crossstitchreviewer/
It is getting chilly here and the mean old lady who lives here is refusing to turn on the heat...I guess I should just go put more clothes on...LOL since I am the mean old lady

Henny Penny, the sky is falling

I wish I had tome to go over to aol and back up my journal and save it. But I don't. I have almost 5 years worth of a journal over there and I have about 5 minutes worth of free time.
I need to head out to a Dr appointment soon but befoer I do that I must rake up some acorns because the sky is falling, Henny Penny. Yesterday, an acorn hit a grandomother on the head as she was waiting to pickup her granddaughter at the pre-school at our church which is right across the parking lot. The preschool teachers are afraind a child is going to be hurt by the falling acorns...and they would like us to try to stop them from falling ( huh?) and to keep them swept up. I feel the sky must be falling, Henny Penny

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

so, here I am....

I have escaped from aol...and hope many of my friend have joined me here. I am not sure if I am sticking around because I also have a place on multiply that I have had crosstitch stuff on...so we will see...but for now here I am....

Friday, October 26, 2007

Fall is definately here...the leaves are falling and covering the ground. It has rained so much that we have to wait for theleaves to dry out before we can rake them up. Even thought fall is here, it has been mild enough for my tomatoes to keep giving to me! YUMMO